Protected Child

“Protected Child” this is a phrase given to me by one of my friends. When she tagged this stamp on me then I thought “Am I really so?” Then I remembered my childhood days. Yes I was really brought up as a protected child. Though I was eldest son I didn’t have to do any household chores. Neither my parents urged me to do so nor did I show any interest on that. Till I was on tenth grade I didn’t know how to light the gas, how to boil water and how to make tea. My grandmother, mother, aunt and sister were always there to cook foods for me, to wash my clothes, to press my dress. I myself was also reserved and introvert. Whenever new guests used to come to our house I used to hide in my study room until they were out of my house. Speaking to new people was one of the most difficult tasks for me.

After I passed SLC I came kathmandu and joined plus two in one of the reputed college. Then my mum also came to kathmandu because my family didn’t want to leave me alone. She was here to do all mine household chores. I requested many time that I was not a child and I want to be independent and want to live alone. I also gave examples of my friends who live alone. But my family was not ready to leave me alone in kathmandu. My college life also passed in the same inert and inactive way. After I passed plus two I was in dilemma about choosing my carrier. There used to be discussions in the house everyday about my future carrier. MBBS, BDS, BE, BSC………..so many options………but not sure which one to choose. But for all the family members the first choice was always medicine. I was not determined to make my carrier in Medicine. With more interest of the family members and little interest of mine I did medical entrance preparation classes and waited for one year. But I never put my whole effort in entrance preparation, that’s the reason why I couldn’t succeed. If I could have studied with full dedication I could have easily achieved that. One of the lessons I learnt in my life from this is that be fully dedicated and make a complete picture of what you wanna be. With no proper carrier counseling and lots of options ahead I was really in dilemma to choose a carrier.

Fortunately I planned to do my Bachelors in Public Health. Till this time I was not sure what actually this field is. I just jumped into it. I appeared in entrance examination and got successful as well. Immediately after the results came there was Dashain and Tihar Vacation, I went Pokhara with two books “You can win” by Shiv Khera and “How to influence people and make friends” by Dale Carnegie. These two books brought lots of changes in me. I followed the principles given by the writers in the books. The books written in simple language are really worth reading. Then I began to plan my future and promised myself that I will be an extrovert and multidimensional.

I don’t know how fast those three years of Bachelors degree passed. The public health, the subject itself was different from other sciences. So once I began my student life as a public health student, it automatically changed my way of thinking and way of behaving with people. I don’t know how it happened but it all happened automatically. I became extrovert, more confident and bold. I was no more a shy and reserved person. I began enjoying the discussions and argument with people. I became interested in what’s going around the world as well. The books (not course books) became my best friends. Besides these there were lots of helpful colleagues around me always. This boosted my confidence. Lots of presentation assignments in class, lots of exposure in the field helped me in further enhancing my presentation and Public speaking skills. The hostel life, window shopping, hanging in the garden and partying every last Friday of the month added more romance to the college life.

And my dear friend now I’m a grown up boy……..